Religion and Marriage

[kafukai]

What do you think could be mixed marriage among the religions?
Need to know that some religions limit the mixed marriage:
The Judaism and the Christianity don't allow mixed marriage.
The Islam allow marriage with any religion.
I don't know about the other religions about their marriage ceremonies, so if there's someone here who can enrich my knowledge will be welcome.

My opinion is marriage must to be from love and the religion doesn't matter.

[Apoo]

I'm not entirely sure what the customs of Islam are, but I have Muslims friends who say that their parents will be the ones who will choose their spouses for them, from another Muslim family. My Teacher, Miss Dahlal who is a muslim, says that she will be the one who chooses her sons' bride.

[Ericgamer1]

My views on marriage go like this; If you really believe that a peice of metal and a some paper represents your love for a person then that's fine.

I don't think though that love can be sealed in any way by marriage, nor do I feel that the goverment should have any say in it as well because in America we have freedom of religon and I feel that marriage is a very religous thing. So why does the goverment feel the need to put limmits on any of it. Now I know that in certain countires their system of goverment revoles around the religon most widely accepted by the majoraty of the people that live there. I think that religon and goverment should be seperate at all costs. You would think that after thousands of years of there being war and such that people would realise that religon should be freely expressed without having any ties to goverment.

Not sure if that was relevent to the topic. I didn't really understand the topic that much, but that's my opinon.

[kafukai]

Originally Posted by Tony

I'm not entirely sure what the customs of Islam are, but I have Muslims friends who say that their parents will be the ones who will choose their spouses for them, from another Muslim family. My Teacher, Miss Dahlal who is a muslim, says that she will be the one who chooses her sons' bride.

Maybe their families choose them bride but for diplomatic or financial problems Muslims can get marriage with other religions-that's smart and slove a lot of problems.

[Fezinator]

Hinduism allows outer religion marriages, but the Indian-Hindu community frons upon this and not marring and Indian, pretty hipocritical don'tcha think

[Majin]

Originally Posted by kafukai

What do you think could be mixed marriage among the religions?
Need to know that some religions limit the mixed marriage:
The Judaism and the Christianity don't allow mixed marriage.
The Islam allow marriage with any religion.
I don't know about the other religions about their marriage ceremonies, so if there's someone here who can enrich my knowledge will be welcome.

My opinion is marriage must to be from love and the religion doesn't matter.

Wrong, in Islam, a male Muslim may marry a non-Muslim female, a female Muslim is not allowed to marry a non-Muslim male.

[kafukai]

Originally Posted by Majin

Wrong, in Islam, a male Muslim may marry a non-Muslim female, a female Muslim is not allowed to marry a non-Muslim male.

Maybe I familiar with this differently and in other counries they ban it(that's mean this is the other counries rules). As I said marriage (Muslims males and females) could be for diplomatic and financial cases.

[Majin]

Originally Posted by kafukai

Maybe I familiar with this differently and in other counries they ban it(that's mean this is the other counries rules). As I said marriage (Muslims males and females) could be for diplomatic and financial cases.

Were not discussing what happens in certain countries.

It is flatly wrong in Islam to marry a non-Muslim.

Wed not idolatresses till they believe; for lo! a believing bondwoman is better than an idolatress though she please you; and give not your daughters in marriage to idolaters till they believe, for lo! a believing slave is better than an idolater though he please you. These invite unto the Fire, and Allah inviteth unto the Garden, and unto forgiveness by His grace, and expoundeth His revelations to mankind that haply they may remember.
-Sura 2:221

[kafukai]

Originally Posted by Majin

Were not discussing what happens in certain countries.

It is flatly wrong in Islam to marry a non-Muslim.

Wed not idolatresses till they believe; for lo! a believing bondwoman is better than an idolatress though she please you; and give not your daughters in marriage to idolaters till they believe, for lo! a believing slave is better than an idolater though he please you. These invite unto the Fire, and Allah inviteth unto the Garden, and unto forgiveness by His grace, and expoundeth His revelations to mankind that haply they may remember.
-Sura 2:221

Nowadays Kadis (Islamic religious court judge) agree for that marriage. Maybe it's happend just in my country with Sunis, I don't know maybe you right also.

[kai0x]

I don't know why I'm posting cause I don't care much about this subject but sure ancient scriptures say that they can't intermarry different religions(talking about Judaism and Christianity) but it happens anyway, well in America at least and the people I know. I don't see any moral problem, the only problem is how they will raise their kids, I know kids with parents from two different religions and they lose out on one a lot of the time. I personally am not religious and don't plan to marry a religious person

[Great_Dharma]

ummm... ok in christianity and judism, we allow for intermarrige between religions. The churches simply have to agree to accept the marriage. Usually done in a neutral church for christians, like a luthran church.

Islam does not allow for intermarriage, except for a man to marry an non-believeing woman, but... it is HIGHLY frowned upon.

[kai0x]

Umm, key word according to ancient scriptures, Judaism did not allow intermarriage at all, it was seen as a form of rebellion against the religion, and still is to orthodox jews. Once again according to ancient writings and customs, intermarriage between a christian and another relgion was not allowed unless given permission and the person was baptized, or whatever. I can't really speak much on Christian customs, so I would need to research it more, but I'm saying this on past customs, not today's standards.

[Klitzy]

So when we talk about Christians, are we talking about the 85% (last percentage I heard a few years ago, which was for U.S. only) that claim to be of the Christian faith... sorry thats not really going with the topic.

As far a Judaism, biblically speaking, it is not to be allowed, though the Israelites did it many times which caused quite a bit of retribution from God. Nowadays, I have no clue.

For Christianity, I wouldn't say its 'not allowed', but I can imagine the reactions I would get if I had married a Muslim. At the least it is frowned upon. I've never heard a speaker say specifically that a Christian wasn't supposed to marry someone from 'X' religion. But I have heard a lot about being 'unequally' yoked and what not.

Thats about as far as my knowledge goes on that topic. I've read the Buddhist 'bible' (can't pull its name out of my head right now though) and bits and pieces of the Quran. Unfortunately I don't remember anything about this topic in either of those.

I think it would be safe to lump all the 'One-Way religions' (ones that think they are the only way to heaven) and say they would not like inter-religious marriages. All the other religions that recognize multiple paths to heaven would be more laid back about the issue. That of course is pretty much pure speculation on my part.

[Syfer Van Hyden]

Originally Posted by Tony

I'm not entirely sure what the customs of Islam are, but I have Muslims friends who say that their parents will be the ones who will choose their spouses for them, from another Muslim family. My Teacher, Miss Dahlal who is a muslim, says that she will be the one who chooses her sons' bride.

No, Muslim parents do not necessarily choose their spouse for their children, that's entirely not true. I live in a Muslim family and I am one and my parents dont mind what i choose, so long as she's a good and honest person who wont marry for wealth or opportunity. and ofc if she converts to Islam perferably. But i on the other hand, do not think that marraige/love is a priority to me, although in Islam ITS A MUST to marry and be responsible of supporting a family of ur own (kids, wife, etc.), but i do not wish to take part of that responsiblity despite the fact that i pray 5times a day and i practice every thing that it means to be a Muslim, except for marraige, i dont want to. __________________

Originally Posted by Majin

Were not discussing what happens in certain countries.

It is flatly wrong in Islam to marry a non-Muslim.

Wed not idolatresses till they believe; for lo! a believing bondwoman is better than an idolatress though she please you; and give not your daughters in marriage to idolaters till they believe, for lo! a believing slave is better than an idolater though he please you. These invite unto the Fire, and Allah inviteth unto the Garden, and unto forgiveness by His grace, and expoundeth His revelations to mankind that haply they may remember.
-Sura 2:221

No, not entirely true, a Muslim can marry a non-Muslim so long as she converts to Islam, or if i remember correctly that it is permitted that a Muslim marries a person from the 3 religions of the 3 holy Books (a christian, muslim or Jew) [ref.1]. < I may be wrong on this part so plz feel free to correct me if i am. But i do know for sure that it is fine to marry a non-muslim so long as that person converts.

And plz disregard the issue that Muslim parents r the ones to choose their spouse for their children, that is WRONG. U r free to marry whoever (not same sex ofc) so long as u believe that he/she is worthy of marraige and that the person converts to Islam or plz refer to [ref.1] < but i maybe wrong on this part.

[AlienX3.5]

it's again islam to have an arranged marriage because the som/daughter must have a say on who they marry. what your talking about are cultural things not religious. In islam women are not allowed to marry outside their religious unless they convert their partner while men can only marry from jewish, chirstian (includes all branches) and muslim. Obviously the men could also convert their partner before marriage.

[kafukai]

Originally Posted by AlienX3.5

it's again islam to have an arranged marriage because the som/daughter must have a say on who they marry. what your talking about are cultural things not religious. In islam women are not allowed to marry outside their religious unless they convert their partner while men can only marry from jewish, chirstian (includes all branches) and muslim. Obviously the men could also convert their partner before marriage.

I think the rules different in every where, 'cause in my country Muslim(Sunni) female can married with Christian male.

[Syfer Van Hyden]

Either way, im not planning on marrying/loving personally.

[kafukai]

I read an article as in Iran the Jewish males marry with Musilm('cause to Jews is too hard to find Jewish bride), if this is get to Iran.

[Insin]

Catholicsm

Marriage is sacred in Chirstianity because it is symbolic of the covenent made between God and His people in the old testament. It is a vow of chastity made between two people, a sacred convenant if you will. God's marriage to the israelites was a covenant, in which God was the greater giver. At least, that is what my moral theology professor said over and over.


If you believe that, then fine, But truth is, even if America is dominated by Christians (But I'm really speaking of Catholics), there are only a few devote members among that population. People in this country marry whoever they want. Divorce rate is high, despite the Church's belief that once you are married, you are married for life. They don't support divorce at all. I wouldn't say Catholicism is dying out, but I would say that many people now are just Catholic by name.

In America, people do whatever they want, or at least on the East Coast, that has been my experience. I've gone to Churches, cell phones go off all the time. People go to Church once a week and leave their brains at the door, go home, then forget about it until next Sunday if they go again. Also, there are many Catholics who "believe what they want." That is to say, that they accept the positions of the Church that they agree with, but alternate views are subject to immediate dismissal. I've often asked the question, to theologians as well, how much can you disagree with the Churches teachings before you are no longer Catholic? I've never recieved a good answer.

Not being Christian, I realize it's somewhat unfair for me to make all these accusations, but they serve a point. In a country (I can only speak for America) where people do whatever they want, what significance does the Church actually have. For most of the Catholic by name only people, what relevance does the teachings of the church have if you ignore most of what they say?

As far as I'm concerned, marriage is risky. Picking the right person and not rushing into it is the best approach. Also, living with that person before marriage is also a good idea. In terms of relgion in marriage in the U.S., I have to say that it's only relevant for a fraction of us, as most of us will do whatever we want anyway.

[rising crescent]

in Islam whether male/female are forbidden to marry another religion people whatever their excuses.

because religion is way of life, how about their children?